Episode 052.
Why the Roe vs. Wade issue is uncomfortable, dividing and must be talked about (Part 1)
With Candice Smiley
Trigger Warning.
This is a Tell the Truth personal podcast that might be triggering for some. Saturday, January 22nd marked the 49th anniversary of the Roe vs. Wade Supreme Court ruling. That landmark moment is now being threatened as the political landscape has changed in the last few years. Now, in this podcast I am endeavouring to NOT go into the political or the religious beliefs around this that are so polarizing; but rather to ask my listeners to pull themselves away from the single abortion issue to the grander women empowerment and equality issue.
I share some uncomfortable statistics, and honestly, I think those are the tip of the iceberg and there are many more ways women are paying the price financially, physically, mentally and emotionally when they are forced to carry to term children that men refuse to acknowledge or support. I am surprised at how well men have pitted women against each other for centuries and we seem to keep falling back into the trap where we argue against each other as women for different views, while we fail to see the bigger issue. The way the guy "penetrates the scared" and then seems to slip away. What a tax on the system when it's the single women who are raising the children, while the men refuse to pay fair child support; using their words and their money to scare them, to financially abuse them - while other men wouldn't want to "date a single mom". The shame continues and increases.
While the women are threatened with punishment for even considering an abortion, and the men who fathered those children are "celebrated" for "sowing their seeds". White conservative men of privilege who still, in the awakened world of 2022, want to somehow control the reproductive rights of women. There is a worldwide gaslighting campaign going on ladies. Enough is enough.
It's time to wake up and rise up.
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, please contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or go to rainn.org
“We know that we are, as women are rising, but we have to be doing a better job. I think of rising together.” - Candice Smiley
“We have to be doing a better job of being willing to powerfully, compassionately and beautifully set aside our differences, holding our values lightly. Not letting go of our own personal integrity and standing in our own power. Speaking our truth.” - Candice Smiley
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Mentioned in the episode:
https://www.congress.gov/bill/117th-congress/house-bill/3755/text
https://people.com/health/this-weekend-might-be-the-last-anniversary-of-roe-v-wade/
“And the people who are most impacted by these abortion restrictions and bans are people of color, low-income individuals, young people and LGBTQ individuals — people who are already burdened with insufficient access to healthcare."
What’s at stake:
https://www.aclu.org/issues/womens-rights
https://www.oyez.org/cases/1971/70-18
(Roe vs. Wade)
https://www.aclu.org/cases/doe-v-gwinnett-county-school-district
Abortion Resources:
https://womenshealthclinic.org/what-we-do/abortion/abortion-resources/
https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/abortion/abortion-resources/
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion
https://www.arcc-cdac.ca/clinics/
Me Too Movement:
https://canadianwomen.org/the-facts/the-metoo-movement-in-canada/
https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2020/05/08/metoo-around-the-world/
Create the Ripple Podcast (Randy King Episode):
https://www.candicesmiley.com/episode-011
Dr. Mikolaj Raszek (Merogenomics Inc.).:
https://www.youtube.com/c/Merogenomics
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“21 years ago I survived a sexual assault from my boyfriend.
14 years ago I decided not to kill myself.
11 years ago I was left with 350 k worth of bad debt.
9 years ago I walked away rather than endure sexual coercion and harassment from my boss.
7 years ago I welcomed my beautiful daughter into the world.
5 years ago I left my marriage to fall in love with myself.
3 years ago I allowed myself to fully heal and reconnect with my feminine;
2 years ago I rebuilt my life, moved into my own tiny home and found my Lifetime Love.
Last year, I started my podcast and welcomed my baby boy earth side."
Candice is a mom, podcaster, social marketer and essentialist who loves to engage in interesting conversations with other influencers and entrepreneurs. Her favourite conversations are the ones that take courage to engage in. (Check out her podcast, Create the Ripple Podcast)
She has learned the power of saying no, listening to your own heart and speaks openly about subtle abuse as it occurs in relationships - personally and professionally. She’s become a voice for listening to your own truth and speaking it clearly, powerfully - at home, at work and in your life. She spends her time living - in a tiny home (250 sq ft), traveling, speaking and sharing candidly with others how to live life after betrayal, to trust themselves, to speak up for themselves and set powerful boundaries.
After a narcissistic partner cheated on her with multiple women, left her (and the country!) With over 350 thousand dollars worth of bad debt, Candice was forced to rebuild her life, her credit and her trust in herself. Coming out of this, she encountered her own “Me Too” moment dealing with sexual coercion and harassment in her professional life; saying no resulted in her being the target of gossip that tarnished her reputation.
Deeply affected by the gaslighting and the experiences, she adopted a minimalist lifestyle, leaned on her personal network and practiced radical personal forgiveness, acceptance and responsibility. The journey was not without its impact and Candice shares powerfully about dealing with anxiety, depression, shame and learning to let go.
When grief rocked her world a little less than 2 years ago, Candice knew it was time to stop her life, hit the pause button and finally do the deep work to heal her heart, self and mindset. Emerging from this place, Candice has begun to embrace her fierce and receptive feminine nature. The journey to be and embrace all the parts of herself has led her to the place to start her wildly successful Create the Ripple Podcast; Trust the Niggle and Tell the Truth - where she features other amazing guests who are not afraid to do the hard work of personal development, listen to their own minds/heart and then speak up and out for those things that matter; to themselves and to make a difference in the world.
Candice loves her essentialist lifestyle for the beauty and freedom it offers her. She can never resist the urge to take off her boots to walk barefoot into a clear mountain lake or stream. When she is not connecting or writing, she can be found disappearing into the backcountry trails of Canada with her life-love Mark and losing herself exploring waterfalls and mountain trails. She is a quiet introvert who adores eating clean foods and reading a great book.
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